Well I have taken a few weeks to care for myself, deal with things that have happened over the last 6-8 months. I continue to busy myself with life and move on after Frank Bentley, John Bentley or whoever he really is. Last night having dinner and drinks with the person I respect most, Tim. He asked about my situation. I have never in detail told Tim about this "relationship". He was very concerned, very interested to see what had happened. I told him there were too many things to say in one nights get together. I went on to tell him how he was bisexual and seeing a married woman. He stopped me right there and said, "There are issues and that should have been your first sign to back away, and this I told you early on,"
Now if you go back in this blog, there was a time last August that Frank showed up at my lobby with his laptop, as I was having a bite at a nearby patio. I refreshed Tim's memory and he recalled this incident, remembering that evening. Anyway, I went on to tell him, how he told my friend Christian, that Frank got a blow job 12 hours before getting together with me, the day we went to the Island together. We continued to have a physical relationship all the while I had no clue he was doing what he did. Frank told Christian that he was up front about that which is a flat out lie as I would have not slept with him again if that was the case, though Frank has a different recollection. I have said time and time again in this blog how Frank is one of the most intelligent men(or so I thought), Frank cannot hold a candle to Tim. Tim is an outstanding human being in life, in general, I would not say this about Frank.
I went on to tell Tim how Frank was also into women's lingerie and Tim's jaw dropped. I went on to explain to Tim how my motive when he was is his garb was to get him out of it and that I managed. I told a story of how one evening, I had gone over, Frank was in his frilly lingerie and stockings. He had spent the day doing chores and laundry. There was laundry folded on the sofa, the bed was not made. When I decided to go to bed, I saw no pillow cases(there is an entry earlier about this in more detail) and I made a comment about this from the bedroom which was off the living room. He said back to me, "You were supposed to tell me to make the bed, put the laundry away." I did not get this at first but eventually realized he wanted me to dominate him. I told him I am not like that and just went to bed. Tim was floored at this and said,"Franco, right then and there you should have gotten out of bed and gone home and not seen him again!" Unfortunately at that time I had fallen in love with him and just wanted to spend time with him, regardless of how out of my element it was. Today is a different story but that was then. Tim said, from what I had told his thus far, that all of this equals to ISSUES, and that's just it. Issues. I told Tim how Christian had told me of an email exchange between then, that Frank has/had no idea how I know or knew of Katarina, the mistress. Telling Christian that I must have gone through his PC to find this information. That is a flat out lie, Frank told me. Katarina never came by all the time that I was there and I was there allot, she did call the odd time though. I explained to Tim how Frank was friends with Katarinas husband, Joel and how they(Frank and Joel) had gone on outings together and what not, again Tim was floored and saying, "That whole situation is so wrong!" Yes it is, it was. I told Tim of Franks diaper fetish of his CL hook ups. I told Tim how one night, I called and asked what he was doing. Frank's response, "Sitting in my diaper" and then told Tim how I had to see this, try and figure this out.
I had gone over, Frank answered the door in a dress shirt which covered the crotch area and dress socks. But that eventually I saw he had blue shorts under the shirt and my asking if there was anything under the shorts, to which Frank nodded yes and went on to show me, a 52 year old bisexual, cross dressing, diaper wearing man, if you can call him that, should have spoken volumes and I should have left for good right then and there!
His unsafe sex practices which was admitted to me, I also told Tim of the STD scare we had and Tim said, "I'm surprised you didn't catch anything from that thing."
Christian relayed to me that Frank said how he never has had an STD when to my face Frank said otherwise. I told Tim about the holiday we were supposed to go on. I told Tim how he(Frank) accused me of "stealing" his Aeroplan number. If that was the case, I would have added the redemption on my trip not his and again, how would I get that information if not from him? When I was over Franks place, I usually, 99% of the time I was situated on the sofa, not near his PC. When we booked the trip, he logged into the Aeroplan site and asked me, from there to make a booking, primarily because he couldn't read the script as it was in a smaller font. I told Tim of how I went over almost everyday last November when Frank pulled his back, I went to be with him and to help him as best as I could with nothing wanted in return but an honest friend. This I didn't get. He has told my friend Christian so many lies its disgusting. I do wish things had been different and yea I do miss a part of Frank but don't miss the lies. He tells Christian how he did not hurt me, I felt hurt, WRONG - You had a man blow you, then within the next 24hours we slept together and had a physical evening. If I knew he had done what he did, he would not have been in my apt or my bed. He told Christian that there was more to the car park incidents that made him stop coming here. He never explained further and all I can say is because, there is no other reason. When I first went to Franks place, there was papers all over the place, empty pasta packages all over the kitchen and hall way floor, I don't live like this, he does. He told Christian how I cost him thousands of $$ - Ha Ha dementia is setting in early with this man/woman/tranny? Not really sure at this point what he is. I keep telling Christian how I wished for closure, that was a while ago, a month and a half ago or so, today, closure for me is expressing myself in an honest way as I always have been. I had been right up to the end 100% honest with Mr Bentley. He was not. He in one email apparently called me "Marco" and Christian forwarded me that email, the response, which went on to say something like, "Franco/Marco/Antonio if that is his name" ? I again have no need to lie and this I told Frank. The "drama" Frank says I inflicted, the pain and damage I have inflicted, the loss of money, is all something in his feeble old mind. I was nothing but good. Yes I had a good time for a while under an illusion of who Frank was. Ive said it before and will say it again, I remember the first day we met for coffee outside. That is my fondest memory and one that is burned in my mind, that was a time of innocence between us both. Him asking how I felt about the meeting and him telling me. It was all nice then and that is the best part of this lost friendship. I whole heartedly admit to flying off the handle, but that was in time of upset and having too much to drink. I said some vile things but I never knew he would turn out to do things he did. Frank, I have learned over the last 8, 9 month what Frank Bentley really is, what kind of person he really is.
Frank is, and this will be a long list probably - He is, a liar, a cheat, lingerie wearing, diaper wearing, deceitful, promiscuous, unsafe, dirty(showers once a month or so), an alcoholic, as he hardly remembers allot of the late night conversations we had due to blacking out and being hung over and this too I have in email, he also is manipulative and selfish...I could go on, but really after all this, why would anyone want someone like that in their daily life? What benefit is there. Like a junkie, the sparkle in his eyes is no more. The smile that had me at, go, no longer shines though. John Frank Bentley is a mystery to me and in a way I'm glad I went through it, only to know tell tale signs when I should back away. I could not even have Frank as a friend, knowing what I know, I couldn't. I think maybe my worst attribute is my temper, but my temper comes though when Ive been messed around with, it happened with Rob, Jonathon, Doug and Frank...and what is the one thing they all did, they lied. The blurb on my main page about this blog says,
"...Living for fun, friends and love ultimately, if it ever shows its face twice in a lifetime" -
I will thank Frank only for one thing and that is the feeling that I can fall in love again, it was a beautiful feeling and I enjoyed. The words he spoke to me in these "moments" I now know were alcohol induces, him telling me I am hot, I am fun and more explicit things I wont mention here. They were just words, in the moment, not what I thought. I don't think Frank can fall in love or is in love with his gal pal otherwise he would not suck cock on the side and put her in danger as well as himself. In the end this is a friendship gone wrong, full stop...
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